If you have saved yourself until your marriage night, your husband will certainly appreciate being able to consummate the relationship. He will also respect and appreciate your personal sacrifice in waiting until marriage. He will feel valued and he will know you value yourself which is hugely important. He may also of course be a virgin himself.
Does sex before marriage mean you can’t give him any greater gift after marriage?
I’d have thought kids were a pretty great gift. Being a faithful, honest companion is a great gift. There are many ways to ‘gift’ your new husband and one cannot possibly create a hierarchy regarding what is the best gift. So my answer as to whether giving your virginity is the best gift ever, would have to be no … not necessarily so.
My personal view is that I believe sex before marriage is a good idea as is living with someone. I believe before you marry someone you should do what you can to ensure compatibility. If you are not compatible sexually you are in for a pretty unfulfilled married life. If you drive each other crazy when you live together, the same result. I am a ‘try before you buy’ advocate.
The following point was also brought to my attention and this is that women and men may marry too soon or too young if they wait for marriage before having sex. I feel this is a very important consideration and welcome your thoughts.